Welcome to Fempotential!
My name is Alex and I’m the founder of Fempotential. That sounds odd, but it’s true.
The idea of Fempotential had been slowly formulating in my mind since 2012, but I didn’t realize it until the last two years. In 2012, I went through a big break up—my “first-love breakup.” Most of us have gone through a “first love” breakup so I won’t go into detail, but you know what it involves – tears, ice cream, a new wardrobe, maybe a hair style, nights out with the girls.
Soon after the break up, I went through a mental transformation. I realized that I had lost my way. I was no longer the girl that I had grown up believing that I was. I was no longer strong and confident as I had once been. I felt fragile. I felt lost. I realized that for the last few years, I had lost myself within my relationship and I no longer knew who I was, but I knew who I wanted to be.
I wanted to live a full life. I wanted experience. I wanted a full, rich life full of adventure, friends, family, and happiness. And I knew I could have it – I could have it ALL.
Most people told me that I couldn’t have everything I wanted. These were everyday people who were told they couldn’t have it all and eventually they believed their family, their friends, and the world.
I refused to.
So I went all in on life and I found success and happiness. I moved between four states in 8 years. My friends grew. I traveled domestically and internationally. I had crazy, amazing experiences. I dated. Life had become exactly what I wanted.
During that time, I began to take notice of other women. Though I didn’t try to compare and contrast myself to other women, it almost became impossible not to. Women and girls started approaching me with questions or comments that made me realize that the way I was living my life was very different than many of the women I knew.
- “How can you travel alone?”
- “Aren’t you afraid to move to LA without knowing anyone?”
- “You walk around this neighborhood at night? Aren’t you scared?”
- “I wish I could do all the things you are doing.”
I began asking these women, “Why can’t you do what I’m doing? Nothing is holding you back.” But something was holding them back: fear, ignorance, the voices of others, inexperience, lack of education, etc., etc.
For a few years, I studied women at work, school, in public. I took notice of girls and women of all ages, ethnicities, races, and abilities. I listened to these women complain about boyfriends, share their fears about approaching their bosses about a raise, watched them obsess over makeup and their weight, and hold back from adventure because they expected danger around every corner.
Then the questions started coming in from girls from high school, women at work, or strangers referred by others. The questions could be easily summed up with: can you provide me with advice on how to start living life to its fullest potential?
Granted, the question from these girls wasn’t that exact question, but the intent behind their questions were all the same. They wanted to change, to grow, to accomplish.
So I provided some advice. Shared some tips that I had picked up along the way and said, “good luck.” Months later, I would be happy to see that these women were doing things that only a few months before they were scared to do. I would soon after get a message of excitement on how successful their life had become and how they had learned and experienced so much.
I came to enjoy these small messages. They made me feel as if I was helping others out, at least in some small way. And I was.
Then my job started to slow down and become routine and I began feeling, for a lack of a better term, “bleh.” There were few things that were driving me in life, especially in terms of my writing. I felt like my writing – the articles, reviews, and blogs – I was working so tirelessly on each day, were irrelevant to most people and wasn’t making a difference in the lives of many, especially not in the lives of many women.
I wanted to give back. I wanted to help women feel more confident, excited about life, and move past their fears. Slowly Fempotential began to form in my mind in the late evenings before I went to sleep.
A year ago, I had started my own blog but it was quite disorganized and the only connecting theme that it had was me. So, I thought, what if I started a blog for women?
I knew I couldn’t do it alone. I wanted to help women but I’m no expert on every aspect of life. There are things that I still need help with, things that I still need advice on. Furthermore, I realized that there were many women that I was inspired by and I wanted to share their stories.
Fempotential then would not be a blog by me, it would be a blogazine that would be a community of women sharing their stories which would hopefully inspire other women to reach their full potential in all areas of life.
Because that’s what we want at Fempotential — we want girls and women to feel inspired to learn, to experience, and to try new things. Our goal is to erase the societal pressures of women to be silent and meek and fearful of the world. We want women to have equal pay and to demand it if need be. We want women to stand up and let their voices be heard, to do things for themselves, to not follow the life plans that were made by their parents or their partners. We want them to make choices and live their life how they want to live it!
We want them to see the “dark side of the moon,” the side that they may not have even discovered, because it’s a beautiful side full of potential.
So we welcome you to our community. Whether you are a reader or you join us as a contributor, we hope that we can help you reach your true Fempotential.