It’s Friday afternoon and I’m off for the day. This week has been confusing to say the least, even a little frustrating at times. I’ve been casually dating a guy for about a month. We went out, and had fun together. Everything was going great, until he pulled the most typical guy move and stopped texting me back.
Usually, I’m always one to just let things roll, however, things with this guy seemed different this time and I think I was beginning to get attached. So this week, I did something that I don’t normally do. I waited, and waited, and waited, and now, it’s Friday and my whole week has gone by.
In “girl world,” a week is a long time — eternity. In “guy world,” I’m sure it’s a lot less dramatic and probably not too long at all. This week, I formulated in my mind all types of conclusions, conspiracies, excuses for him as to why he hasn’t texted me back. Maybe he’s been busy at work, maybe he left his phone on the subway, maybe he met someone else, or maybe he died….
It is my own fault. I shouldn’t have waited around, but I lost myself for a moment. If he’s trying to break it off with me the least he could have done was give me a phone call. It’s the gentleman thing to do. I think all humans (women) deserve more respect than a weeks’ worth of waiting time. Having said that, sometimes we have to take a hint and make the call ourselves.
As I write this I’m looking out my window of my new home, in a new city, and all I can think about is how I’m slightly disappointed in myself. I got so attached to the idea of having companionship that I put my plans, my goals, and my schedule on the side for a month. I put more energy into him than I should have; I canceled plans with my girlfriends, and I put my companionship with this guy before myself.
My point is that there is a whole universe out there ready to be explored. There are gym memberships to be used; there are languages to be learned, and brunches to be attended to. Don’t wait for validation, don’t wait for plans, and don’t wait for a guy. The best way to get what you want out of life is to get up and take matters into your own hands. Get out there, make your own plans, and don’t wait for opportunity; go create it.
I’m not waiting anymore. I’m off to Lisbon tomorrow.