When Prince Charming Isn’t The One

As women, we start off with visions of the perfect match through Disney movies and other media. It’s fairly simple: make a checklist of perfection and seek someone who meets all of those marks. One day, Prince Charming will come and sweep us terribly off our feet. We won’t be able to help ourselves but to fall madly in love with him, because he will be perfect.

He will be perfect in the following ways:

He will be devilishly handsome: taller than us, athletic, and have that certain kind of hair and facial feature we like. Most of the time he will have the same culture or ethnicity as us. Society and experience prescribe this to be a simpler situation.

His personality will be great: he will easily make us laugh, be outgoing and charming with others— but relentlessly faithful to us; he will be strong, yet gentle, understanding and comforting, love us exactly as we are but allow us to grow, and be firm in his beliefs and values but also is open to compromise. He will be similar to us but also balance us perfectly, the ying to our yang. (Not a lot to ask for, right….?)

Last but not least, his financial and career standing will be impressive and stable. He will have the lodging and vehicle of his and OUR dreams. He will be generous but careful with his money as to not incur “unnecessary” debt. His career path/education will match or outmatch ours, for after all, society says a man’s role is to be the biggest breadwinner.

When we meet someone who meets all of these qualifications, we have found perfection; we have found our Prince Charming. Rest easy, little girls, for now that you’ve found Prince Charming, the search is over and love will come easy. Happily ever after will shortly ensue…

But– what if Prince Charming knows he’s Prince Charming? Not just YOUR Prince Charming, but a general Prince Charming… He knows all that he has to offer, knows how sought after his repertoire is, and that ANY girl would be happy to have him.

So while he may treat you like a princess, he doesn’t treat you like THE princess: one of a kind, one in a million, to be cherished heavily and eternally.

You see, the problem is that it doesn’t matter if he’s the most amazing person in the world if he doesn’t treat you like you’re the most amazing person in HIS world.

Forget finding someone who qualifies perfectly on paper; instead fall in love with someone who despite your flaws, finds you to be the most amazing jewel he ever did behold.

Disney has taught women to search for an ideal partner, "Prince Charming." This writer explains the problem with looking for a perfect partner in comparison to looking for a partner that is perfect for you.

I am a consultant by day, a dreamer by night, a gypsy always. My dreams are filled with arts and crafts, travels and adventures, music and photography, nature and laughter. I chase my fears and express them in words. Welcome to my realm.

Carollaine Garcia

I am a consultant by day, a dreamer by night, a gypsy always. My dreams are filled with arts and crafts, travels and adventures, music and photography, nature and laughter. I chase my fears and express them in words. Welcome to my realm.

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