How I Accidentally Fell Into Meditation

I accidentally began meditating last year.

After leaving Christianity and my need to be affirmed by toxic people, in the year of 2014, I changed things up a bit. I woke up one morning and remained in bed for five minutes in silence. After a while, the duration of silence was extended to twenty minutes. I felt lighter, I saw life more clearly, and, I began to understand the sentence, “Being in the moment.” Most importantly, I learned then that I was an overthinking queen with pessimism as my gaudiest crown.

Thanks to meditation I don’t deeply ruminate as much and I haven’t been as lost in my thoughts as I used to be. I randomly laugh in the middle of the day for no reason and I smile more. I am more content and satisfied with the simplicity of life than ever before. When I walk outside of my building in the morning, I smile at the winter chill or the autumn breeze. I give the obnoxiously big leaf that’s stuck on a gate wide, happy eyes.

I even like observing adults rushing their imaginative, beautiful and unfocused children to school.  I laugh at those little ass dogs with “struggle legs” attempting to catch up with their owner! I chuckle at tripping over the Chinese food to-go box while I was laughing at the dog with the struggle legs! Before I chose to meditate, I would be too busy entertaining thoughts in my head to even notice a nine-foot poodle named, Sammy.

I eventually stopped denying my voyage of mindfulness, cleared my mind, and began to research. I read books and articles and watched a few informative YouTube clips about meditation. I was a bit iffy about it because I was still dealing with leaving Christianity.

I am a former queen of overthinking, so of course deciding to clear my mind of constant contemplation would take three hero queens, nine Shreks with their accompanied donkeys, and a Rumpelstiltskin to cease my thoughts. After a while, I began to find a system/ techniques/exercises that worked for me and I will hold them close until it’s time for me to branch out.

In the mornings, I center and ground. There are various methods and techniques to grounding and centering. I am not claiming to be an expert! I am merely sharing what I do:

  1. Inhale slowly for five seconds and exhale for eight
  2. Repeat step 1 three times.
  3. Close your eyes and repeat step 1 one more time
  4. Visualize a spiral. Any kind of spiral. Mine is purple and it sparks every now and then, because I like sparks, damn it!
  5. Allow all passing thoughts (because I think of the most ludicrous things when centering) to be sucked into the spiral.
  6. When all you can think about is that spiral and nothing else, stay in that moment as long as you can. Even if it’s only three seconds, that’s enough.
  7. Open your eyes slowly and repeat step one

I sit up straight in a chair when centering and grounding. I refuse to lie down because I’ll I either go to sleep or think about how fluffy my mattress is. Once I ruminate on my fluffy mattress, I’m going to snuggle under my mink blanket, and it’s all over then.

At night, I do steps 1-3 of my centering method and then reflect on 5-7 things or people who I am grateful for.  Of course, a random thought will pass through my mind and I make sure not to shoo it away. I ALLOW IT TO PASS AND RE-FOCUS.

There’s something special about shutting up and just breathing…

After laying in bed in silence for five minutes -- a woman realizes she's meditating. From there, she continues the practice especially after she realizes how much happier and satisfied she became in life. Check out her meditation tips in this blog!

Jasmine Farrell
Born in “the village” and raised in Brooklyn, N.Y., Jasmine Farrell is an author, poet, and co-editor of Poems from the Heron Clan Vol IV. She released her first book of poems in 2014, My Quintessence, about adolescent angst, self-acceptance, love and societal stances. Ms. Farrell’s work has been featured in Poems from the Heron Clan III, appeared in the Nyack College’s literary journal, The Fine Print, and she has been a guest blogger for WomenWithGifts.com. Her second collection of poetry, Phoenixes Groomed as Genesis (PGAGD), about self -discovery, life transitions and society, will be released this year on April 24th. You can order your copy of PGAGD on Amazon and connect with Jasmine on social media.

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Jasmine Farrell

Jasmine Farrell

Born in “the village” and raised in Brooklyn, N.Y., Jasmine Farrell is an author, poet, and co-editor of Poems from the Heron Clan Vol IV. She released her first book of poems in 2014, My Quintessence, about adolescent angst, self-acceptance, love and societal stances. Ms. Farrell's work has been featured in Poems from the Heron Clan III, appeared in the Nyack College’s literary journal, The Fine Print, and she has been a guest blogger for WomenWithGifts.com. Her second collection of poetry, Phoenixes Groomed as Genesis (PGAGD), about self -discovery, life transitions and society, will be released this year on April 24th. You can order your copy of PGAGD on Amazon and connect with Jasmine on social media. https://www.amazon.com/Phoenixes-Groomed-as-Genesis-Doves/dp/0692678662/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1466527983&sr=8-1&keywords=Phoenixes+Groomed+as+Genesis+Doves

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